In today’s post, let’s dive into the secrets of becoming an incredible lover together!
Be Present
My first tip is to be present. And this, in my opinion, is the golden rule. When engaging in sexual interactions with our partners, it’s common for many of us to get stuck in our heads. We might find ourselves overthinking about what we need to do next, feeling insecure about the dynamics, or worrying about how we’re being perceived and how we look. In these moments, we become completely absorbed in our own thoughts, disconnecting from the actual experience and the person in front of us. To become an amazing lover, learning to be fully present is essential.
Being present means more than just eliminating distracting thoughts. It’s about consciously immersing yourself in the moment, co-creating a beautiful experience with your partner. Yes, thoughts might pop up, but setting an intention to return to the present moment and truly engaging with your partner is key.
Moreover, being present involves attuning yourself to your partner. Have you ever felt like your partner was not connected during intimacy? It’s disheartening, right? To avoid this, pay attention to their energy. Notice their breathing patterns and synchronize your breath with theirs. This simple act creates a profound connection, allowing you to sense their reactions. Are they opening up? Relaxing? Or perhaps feeling a bit tense? Adjust your movements accordingly.
Give and Receive
My second tip revolves around finding the perfect balance between giving and receiving. For many, especially women, fully receiving pleasure can be challenging. It’s about learning to surrender completely, allowing yourself to embrace the attention, touch, and pleasure without any shame or self-judgment. There’s nothing sexier than a woman fully enjoying herself in a sexual encounter.
However, it’s crucial not to be solely focused on receiving without reciprocating. Intimacy is a shared dance with our partners. So, it’s essential to learn the art of balancing between receiving and giving passionately and enthusiastically.
Give from a State of Pleasure
Previous brings me to the third tip: immerse yourself in your pleasure while offering pleasure to your partner. There is no bigger turn-on than receiving a blow-job or oral sex from a person who is clearly super into it and really enjoying themselves as they are pleasuring you. Don’t engage in anything as a chore; it won’t feel good to your partner. Instead, tap into your own pleasure even when you’re giving. Let your enthusiasm and enjoyment shine through, creating an incredible and unforgettable experience for both you and your partner. Remember, true pleasure comes from genuine enthusiasm and mutual enjoyment.
Be Spontaneous
My fourth tip is all about embracing spontaneity. I understand that it can be intimidating; there’s that fear of embarrassment, the worry that trying something new might not go as planned. And yes, sometimes it might not work out exactly how you envisioned – your partner might not enjoy it as much. But here’s the thing: I firmly believe it’s crucial, as well as fun and playful, to give it a shot. In the midst of a passionate moment, if you feel the urge to spontaneously nibble your partner’s neck or try something unconventional, go for it. Of course, remember my previous tips: stay present and be attuned to your partner’s energy. This will help you gauge whether your partner is receptive to what you’re trying.
It’s easy to fall into predictable patterns, especially after being intimate with someone several times or in long-term relationships. We find ourselves stuck in routines – the same kissing style, the same oral techniques, the same positions – and things get monotonous quickly. To truly become an exceptional lover, consider each lovemaking session as creating a new masterpiece, like crafting a new dish or composing a unique song. Yes, bring in your mastered techniques and favorite moves, but don’t be afraid to change things up entirely. Especially in long-term relationships, maintaining passion and continuing to be amazing lovers requires embracing change and creativity. So, spice things up and keep the flame alive by infusing freshness and creativity into your intimate moments.
Express Your Pleasure
My fifth tip is about the importance of being expressive in bed. Let your pleasure be heard through your voice and seen through your body language. This advice is not limited to women; men should also embrace this practice. There’s a common misconception that only women should express their pleasure, but in reality, it’s incredibly arousing for both partners when they can openly show their enjoyment.
Many of us struggle with expressing pleasure due to societal conditioning that often labels sex as shameful or sinful. It’s natural to feel inhibited and guilty about our sexual desires. If you find it challenging to express your pleasure, know that there’s nothing wrong with you. However, I encourage you to consciously work on opening yourself up to being more expressive. Let your body move freely, reflecting the energy flowing through you. Allow your voice to convey the arousal you’re experiencing. In moments of intense passion, don’t be afraid to show it – whether it’s through scratching, biting, or any other wild and passionate expression. By fully embracing and expressing your sexual energy, you can create a deeper connection and more satisfying experiences with your partner.
Using a Sex Machine
My final tip is to incorporate a sex machine into your intimate moments. Sex machines are innovative devices designed to simulate sex. They offer a range of attachments suitable for vaginal, anal, and male stimulation, making them ideal for couples seeking diverse experiences. Imagine this: You and your partner decide to use the Hismith sex machine for couples in your bedroom. As you set it up, anticipation fills the air. The machine, equipped with Bluetooth technology, allows you to control its movements through your smartphone. You start with a gentle setting, exploring the sensations together. The versatility of the attachments caters to both your desires. Whether it’s a tender caress or a more intense experience, the sex machine adapts, ensuring both you and your partner are thoroughly satisfied.. .
The beauty of using a sex machine lies in its ability to complement your existing intimacy, adding an element of excitement and variety. It’s not about replacing the connection you share but enhancing it.
These are my tips for becoming an exceptional lover. While there are various qualities that contribute to great intimacy, these, in my opinion, are fundamental. As you read this post, think about your experiences. Is there a particular quality that stands out for you? Perhaps it’s something I haven’t covered here, a unique gesture you’ve cherished, or a technique you’ve mastered. I encourage you to share your thoughts with me. Let’s create a space where we can learn from one another.
